FAQS

  • Absolutely. While our space celebrates freedom of expression and exploration, we maintain guidelines to ensure everyone's comfort and safety:

    • Respect for consent is non-negotiable—always ask before engaging

    • Confidentiality about who attends and what happens at events

    • No photos or videos during gatherings without consent

    • No excessive intoxication or illegal substances (420 is allowed)

    • Respect for the host's space and property

    • Be mindful of personal hygiene

    • Communication of boundaries is encouraged and respected

    These guidelines create the foundation for a space where everyone can feel safe to connect and explore authentically.

  • All event details—including locations, dates, times, and any special information—are shared exclusively through Instagram's Close Friends feature.

    Once approved, you'll be added to our Close Friends list where you'll receive both Stories and posts with complete event information.

    This approach ensures that sensitive details remain private and are only shared with approved members.

  • Cocks & Cocktails maintains an exclusive membership approach to ensure several core elements of our experience: an atmosphere of mutual respect and trust, a balanced dynamic among attendees, and a space where everyone feels comfortable exploring connection.

    Our curation process helps maintain the quality of interactions and ensures alignment with our community values.

    This selective approach allows us to create an environment where members can authentically connect without the uncertainty often found in more open settings.

  • Our events are specifically designed for queer men who appreciate our focus on meaningful connection alongside physical intimacy with other men.

    While we welcome diversity within our community, we carefully curate our membership to maintain the intended atmosphere and experience.

    Potential members request an invitation through our Instagram DMs, and we assess compatibility based on several factors including alignment with our community values and contribution to the overall dynamic.

    This process ensures that everyone present is there for similar reasons and contributes positively to the experience.

  • We maintain member privacy as a core value, so we don't share identities of current members prior to joining. This discretion is something our members appreciate about our community.

    However, during the approval process, we're happy to have a conversation about the general makeup of our membership in terms of age ranges, interests, and community vibe to help you determine if Cocks & Cocktails aligns with what you're seeking.

    Many members have found that our curation process naturally creates a gathering of like-minded individuals.

    If you've ever been to a bathhouse, circuit party, or similar event, you most likely didn't know who would be in attendance before you went, yet you still went and had fun, didn't you? Yeah, you did, you little slut.

  • You don’t. You just have to join and find out.

    But also, let’s be realistic. No one is attracted to everyone so just accept that there will be both people you are and aren’t attracted to in the group, and that’s okay.

    We’re all adults and no one is required to engage with anyone they aren’t comfortable engaging with. Consent is nonnegotiable.

  • To curate an experience of this scale that includes, refreshments, snacks, clean sheets, towels, lube, poppers, etc. requires time, energy, labor and most importantly, money.

    Although we’d love for all of our events to be free, hosting events of this nature for free simply isn’t possible.

    Additionally, time and energy goes into the recruitment, maintenance, and scaling of this group.

  • If you’re interested in joining the team to help organize events, please DM us on Instagram.