House Rules

What we expect from every member

By attending any of our events, you agree to uphold these standards. Our community thrives because members hold themselves and each other accountable.

If you witness a violation, report it to the organizers immediately. We've built something special. Help us protect it.

Your responsibility

    • Always ask before engaging with someone

    • Respect when someone says no or changes their mind

    • Consent can be withdrawn at any time

    • "Maybe" means no. Hesitation means no. Silence means no.

    • Get tested regularly - Know your status and stay on top of it

    • Preventative medicine is strongly encouraged - We recommend all members be on some form of preventative medicine such as PrEP and DoxyPEP

    • Disclosure is required - If you test positive for anything after an event, notify us immediately via Instagram DM so we can alert the group. No exceptions.

    This isn't optional. Transparency protects everyone.

    • Honor your own boundaries and those of others

    • Communicate clearly about what you want and don't want

    • Never pressure anyone for any reason

    • Reciprocate energy and attention

    • Contribute to the experience, don't just consume it

    • Acknowledge others even if they're not your type

    • The best gatherings happen when everyone gives as much as they receive

    • Help create the energy you want to experience

    • Clean up after yourself

    • Be mindful of shared spaces and others using them

    • Mistreating the space jeopardizes future events for everyone. Take care of it like it's your own.

    • Maintain good personal hygiene

    • No excessive intoxication or you will be asked to leave and won’t be invited back

    • Remain in control of your actions and decisions at all times

    • What happens at our events stays at our events

    • Never share details about who attends or what occurs

    • No discussing members outside of events

    • Protect everyone's privacy as you'd want yours protected

Community Guidelines

  • The identities of our hosts and organizers are strictly confidential. Never share, confirm, or speculate about who runs Musk or Cocks & Cocktails with anyone inside or outside the community.

    Revealing organizer identities will result in immediate and permanent removal from the group. No exceptions.

  • Never confirm or deny someone's membership to anyone outside the community

  • Do not discuss members, events, or experiences with non-members

  • If you encounter a member outside of events, follow their lead on acknowledgment - some prefer discretion in public

  • Locations, dates, and specifics are shared only with confirmed attendees

  • Never tag, post, mention, or reference specific members in connection with Musk or Cocks & Cocktails

Discretion Policies

  • Your comfort and safety are paramount. If someone makes you uncomfortable, you have several options: you can directly communicate your boundaries to that person, remove yourself from the situation, or find the host immediately.

    We encourage open communication about boundaries, and any member who doesn't respect clearly stated boundaries will be addressed immediately. Remember, consent can be withdrawn at any time, and no one should pressure you to do anything you're not comfortable with.

  • Membership is a privilege, not a right. Anyone who violates our community guidelines will be removed from the event immediately and permanently banned from future gatherings. No exceptions. We protect our community first.

    We also reserve the right to remove any member at any time if we determine they are not the right fit for our community. This isn't personal - it's about protecting the community and experience for everyone.

SAFETY & Removal